Although it might sound like a superficial remark, first impressions are very important. I know, that “you should not judge a book by its cover” and its “the character that counts”. But psychological research has shown that people tend to remember best the first and last impression; so the minute you walk into the door and the minute that you leave. The period in between, which deals with the content of the interaction is unfortunately easily forgotten.
And what use is a great character, if a person does not want to get to know the character because of a lousy first impression.
It is way harder to correct a negative first impression, than to ruin a positive first impression.
In a business setting there are numerous first impressions on an average day; it is not only the application interview or the first day at a new job, but also a first meeting with that new colleague or a potential new customer. And there is only one first impression you can make.
Just a few elements to take into account in a first meeting:
- Know your non-verbal communication. Do not cross your arms in front of you (closed position – defensive attitude); do not sprawl in your chair (not interested, not respectful); make eye-contact; do make supporting arm or hand movements if you speak (supports what you say and can show some enthusiasm), etc.
- Watch your appearance. You don’t have to wear the latest fashion trend, but your appearance should match the type of occasion without pushing your personality out of the picture. If you never wear a suit and tie, people notice that that is not the real you and you might come across as not genuine;
- Show interest in the other person; you are seen in a more positive light if you show interest in what the other has to say – ask questions or see their point of view and concentrate on what is actually said; you must make the other one feel good about you and about himself or herself;
- Stay who you are; meaningful first impressions are the first step in, hopefully, lasting relationships; if you presented yourself the first time as totally different from the real you, you will be judged a fake once the other knows you better; of course it is no more than natural to focus on your “strong” points and to smooth over your “weak” points.